Feeling alone? Feeling not yourself? Or maybe feeling that ‘yourself’ is not ‘good enough’?
Not compared to …?
Not liked or followed ‘enough’? Feeling you’ve got it but then you see…, you hear…?
It’s not you. There isn’t anything ‘wrong’ with you. Our brains, our bodies, our beautiful heart-centered selves have not evolved to be relying on external random never-going-to-meet-them likes and follows.
We thrive on connections, yes. We need these, yes.
And it is SO much better, more effective, REAL-happiness-inducing when they are real, in real life, with actual real-you-can-reach-out-and-touch-them connections. The natural world, animals or people.
So, what can YOU do today? To bring real connection and/or meaning into YOUR REAL LIFE today?
Maybe it’s a phone call, maybe it’s chatting with someone at the store check-out?
Maybe it’s getting out for some movement and fresh air and asking someone for directions or recommendations (e.g. of nice places or cafes or bookstores to visit).
Maybe it’s patting someone’s dog. Maybe it’s popping round to meet a neighbour with a tiny ‘housewarming’ gift.
Maybe offer to volunteer somewhere once a week or month? (What do YOU love? What has meaning for/to YOU?)
Maybe, and this can be SUPER useful, it’s calling out for help – calling a free helpline, a friend, a counsellor.
Whatever you’re feeling, however or whoever you are, do NOT, I repeat do NOT, rely on unpredictable out-of-your-control external likes or not for YOUR OWN SENSE OF WORTHINESS. Your own sense of connective-ness.
For you are already whole. We were just not meant to isolate ourselves so often.
It’s ok. You’re here. That’s enough. Look after you. You are NOT alone in this. We’ve just made it easy in our every-day-lives to do this. To disconnect.
So start now. Write a little (or big) list of all the ways you COULD possibly connect with someone or somewhere in real life.
It’s time.
Yes social media is fun. Yes, it can be useful. It can be ONE way of ‘connecting’. But please remember, this is not natural for ourselves, so it IS more likely to throw us, to unsettle us.
Pop back today into the real world here, around you.
Not sure where to start? Grab some paper and a pen and get out for a walk where you live now. Off you go sweetheart. One step. Xxx
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